Susan left her boyfriend in worst dispute. She called me from New York about a week ago, her last evening there before returning and when they separated, angry at each other, she couldn’t endure his reproaches anymore. She said they will separate. She moved to a hotel to avoid his presence, paid $600 for one week. We spend the week-end together with the flamenco event. I don’t have necessarily a problem with that since I always enjoyed being with her. And I feel sorry for her she has to go through all that. All her efforts to keep the relationship, her efforts in the apartment, she paid trips for him to New York and on Christmas, probably others, helped him financially…and had to undergo these insults. What troubles me is that again she has nothing else to do than return to him, until the next time, without anything learned from these unbearable conditions, as if nothing happened. I tried to call her tonight, she didn’t respond. Only a text message she returned that she was just tired. I guess it’s her boyfriend who doesn’t allow her to communicate. I feel bad, for her, for our friendship, and I feel bad myself. I did my job, helped her to overcome this and now I should continue stand still accepting how she’s patronized. It’s awful to think that we met to do something together only when he disgust her or when he’s away as it was the case too. Otherwise, there are endless disputes every time we meet. I am tired of it. I don’t see any sense whatsoever in this situation. Especially since I feel like an idiot who is on place when desired and has to leave otherwise. I feel more and more detached from Susan, I don’t understand her anymore, I don’t know what’s in her mind, I don’t understand how you can suffer through a relationship like that, how you can accept all the patronization, the little respect, ignorance towards our friendship. I thought many times about it, and I think at some point I just want to keep the biggest possible distance, just to protect our friendship. I know next time when she will call me in a situation like now, I probably won’t listen anymore since I know she will go back to him anyway. I don’t know how a macho like him deserves that, but I do know that it hurts our friendship.